family dynamics

Why Asian American and Pacific Islander Month Matters

May 5, 2023

Throughout my teenage years, peers from my predominantly Caucasian high school would ask, “Why do we need a month to celebrate African American history?” And now as an adult in my late thirties I’m asked about Asian American and Pacific Islander month. Deep down I want to believe like so many might choose too, that…

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A Letter To The Outcast

April 29, 2023

To the person who never feels like they are enough! Yesterday, I connected with individuals from so many different backgrounds, communities, and organizations. Accomplishing dreams and reaching goals I didn’t even know was possible!! From the owner of the women’s football team, the Kansas City Glory. M To the woman who was a sports reporter…

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What Would Our World Look Like

March 21, 2023

Lately, I’ve been wondering. “What would our world look like?” If we showed each other grace, compassion, and understanding. Instead of judging one another? I’ve noticed as a mom to young kids. There’s so many expectations of moms. A clean house. A child that’s neatly dressed for school and church. Home cooked meals. And playtime…

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The Importance of Quality Time With Your Little Ones

February 15, 2023

“Unpause me.” My four year old mumbled to me. It was a new concept she picked up this school year. Anytime someone spoke over her, we had to, “unpause,” her. Or she couldn’t speak. Silly. I know. But it mattered to her. And so it mattered to us. Because that’s how a bond is formed…

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Where’s My Village

January 16, 2023

Growing up, I watched as my mother bounced us from relative’s house to relative’s house. So she could pursue her education and live out the extent of the American dream. Now as an adult, a mom, and a woman pursuing her career as a temporary licensed professional counselor, I often wonder. “Where’s my village?” Because…

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Is it the Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression?

January 12, 2023

According to the Mayo Clinic (2022) most women might encounter some baby blues after delivering their baby. But the key factor is that baby blues develops a few days after delivery and should only last for a maximum of two weeks. Some symptoms of baby blues are having crying spells, mood swings, experiencing anxiety, and…

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Life With In-laws

October 19, 2022

When I was single I used to hear all this gossip about other people’s wives. And I’d hear these statements about my close relatives’ wives as well. It didn’t matter if one was being abused. I’d still hear, “It’s her fault he hits her.” I still remember the shock that entered my body when I…

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The Difference Between Emotional Abuse and Conflict

October 15, 2022

According to Koza (2017), there’s a difference between emotional abuse and conflict. Conflict occurs in any relationship (friendships, family, romantic, and even work relationships). Conflict provides both parties the opportunity to discuss the issue, share their emotions, and talk through whatever the problem is (Koza, 2017). Then work towards a resolution together. Emotional abuse takes…

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The Importance of Boundaries

October 14, 2022

Someone told me the other day I didn’t need to be angry. They then went on to state, that my anger was most likely due to my past. And not because of how they and/or others were treating me in the present moment. According to, The Wellness Center (2022), boundaries are set to identify what…

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