Anger is not Toxic.

I often hear the phrase, “Don’t be mad.”

As if anger is a bad or toxic emotion to have.

But the truth is, anger is not a bad emotion.

It is the behavioral choices people choose to make because of their anger that makes it bad or good.

There’s actually a part of the human brain, the amygdala that produces emotional responses like fear, anxiety, pleasure, and anger (The University of Queensland, 2019).

The amygdala is also responsible for informing people when they are potentially in a situation that may be threatening to themselves. And it sends them signals in case they need to defend themselves (

However, the amygdala should not be used for the destructive actions people make when they’re angry (

In fact, people that use anger to condone their actions are behaving in an abusive manner.

Because people can choose to learn how to manage their behavioral reactions to anger (

It is a huge red flag when people choose not to learn anger management tools. But instead use their anger as the authority behind their actions.

Such as stating, “I was mad so I had every right to say what I did to you. Even if my words were hurtful.”

Because remember, anger in itself is not the toxic emotion.

It is how someone chooses to react to their anger that makes it poisoning.

Because now the individual is justifying their actions due to their anger.

But refusing to take any ownership for their actions.

It is not a crime to be angry. It is the choices people choose to make due to their anger that identifies if it’s a crime or not.

Written by Eriko Her, M.A., T-LPC


The limbic system. Queensland Brain Institute – University of Queensland. (2019, January 24). Retrieved October 14, 2022, from 

Physiology of anger. (n.d.). Retrieved October 14, 2022, from

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